Unspoken Conversations are the topics that are often swept under the carpet, whispered amongst the closest of friends and bitched about by many. I want to create awareness about difficult things that people face in life; grief, mental health, money, illnesses, family troubles, relationship difficulties and putting yourself first. I want to tell the truth about things that really matter.

Sunday, 12 August 2012

Could you be a childcare worker?



Tegan with one of the children that she used to care for.



Today I welcome my little sister Tegan to the world of blogging. My "little" sister is not so little anymore. She's 22, is about to get married (I have to add that because I'm just SO excited), she's completed her Diploma in Childrens Services at SUNRASIA INSTITUTE OF TAFE after studying for 2 years and is now a Team Leader at a child care centre.

I am constantly amazed to hear the expectations and amount of time and effort that child care workers place into creating a warm and fun learning environment which fosters the needs of children from all different cultural backgrounds including children with additional needs. 

Having worked at an Out Of School Hours Care facility during university, I know just how demanding and tiring entertaining children can be.

I take my hat off to child care workers and I honestly believe that they deserve to be paid more. After all, they look after our future generations at an age where they are like little sponges ready to learn! 

Would you want their job? 

Ps - Teegs refers to Child Care Workers as 'educators' in this blog :) I guess that is the technical term for them - and rightly so!

 
There is no job more important than yours,
no job anywhere else in the land.
You are the keepers of the future:
you hold the smallest of hands.
Into your care you are trusted
to nurture and care for the young,
and for all of your everyday heroics,
your talents and skills go unsung.
You wipe tears from the eyes of the injured.
You rock babies brand new in your arms.
You encourage the shy and unsure child.
You make sure they are safe from all harm.
You foster the bonds of friendships,
letting no child go away mad.
You respect and you Honor their emotions.
You give hugs to each child when they're sad.
You have more impact than does a professor,
a child's mind is molded by four;
so whatever you lay on the table
is whatever that child will explore.
Give each child the tools for adventure,
let them be artists and writers and more;
let them fly in the wind and dance on the stars
and build castles of sand on the shore.
It is true that you don't make much money
and you don't get a whole lot of praise,
but when one small child says, "I love you,"
you're reminded of how this job pays.

What do you think are the most important roles and responsibilities of a child care worker?

 
On a daily basis, educators interact and communicate with parents on arrival and departures. Child care staff administer medication to children in need, open our arms up to them when they are sad, comfort them when they feel ill, apply first aid when they have a boo boo and help to dress them when they are in need of support. 

As Educators, we provide opportunities and experiences for the children to explore, discover, experiment, create, communicate, imagine, pretend, make and build bonds with their peers and educators to further their development and emerge their skills. Children learn best through play.              

Each month, our centre comes together after closing hours, for trainings, team meetings, room meetings and Team Leader meetings (just the team leaders, director & assistant director). We are also encouraged to attend trainings on Saturdays from time to time.
 
As Educators; our job is to support, encourage & assist children to the best of our knowledge & abilities to provide high quality care.


Tegan's story - a day in the life of a child care worker.


I walk into the Toddler’s room & greet all the educators & children a good morning. I put my belongings away & check the role list to count how many children we have at that minute, that all the children there have been signed in & how many we are expecting for the morning session and then the afternoon. I check the toddler communication diary to see if there are any messages to be passed on. I then scan the program on the wall to see if there are any children whom need observing or implementing and evaluating for the day ahead.

We have a daily roster for staff. This includes: preparing morning tea, setting up the beds for sleep time, preparing lunch, cleaning the bathroom, disinfecting the toys, preparing afternoon tea, attending the sleep room and completing the daily journal. It doesn’t always go to plan, although it is a great guideline to make sure the workload is shared around fairly and completed.  

We have a 'daily routine' that is used as a guide and is flexible to meet the needs of all children. We carry out nappy changes every 2 hours, (9am, 11am, 1pm, 3pm, 5pm)  offering each child the choice to sit on the potty/toilet, although if a child soils their nappy in-between the 2 hours, we change it instantly.

Educators remind the toilet trained/training children to go more frequently to avoid accidents and build their confidence in conquering toilet training. 

Morning tea is aimed at 10.00 am. We have group times before each meal time and then each child is encouraged and supported to wash their own hands. Morning tea consists of a variety of local fruit provided by the centre and a glass of milk by choice. 

Lunch is aimed at 11.30am. Our centre is a lunch box service which means that parents need to provide lunch and afternoon tea for their children. 

Sleep/rest time is in between 12 and 3, where each child who needs a sleep is provided a bed, their comforters and a bottle if needed. For the children whom do not require a sleep, Educators provide an environment full of experiences for the children to explore or they go play in the outdoor environment if the weather is suitable. 

Afternoon tea is aimed at 3pm.

 Throughout the day, Educators carry out chores such as monitoring the washing, cleaning, mopping, dishes etc to enable the centre to maintain a clean and healthy environment.


Two of Tegan's best friends that she met through TAFE when studying to be a child care worker.
How many childcare staff  are required to look after children?
 
The educator to child ratio is 1:8 in the toddler's room and we are fortunate that a majority of educators are qualified. With the new government legislation and licensing, changes by the 1st of January 2016, the child to educator ratio will be 1:5. At my centre, management aim to have a lower ratio than required.

We also have a child with Phelan Mcdermid Syndrome (PMS) whom is supported with 1:1 care 8 hours of the day.

Each room’s Team Leader has the responsibility to provide a program fortnightly. Three hours a week of 'non contact time' is provided for the Team Leader to create this program. The Toddler’s program consists of planning for the whole room as well as individual children. 

I program for roughly 50 toddlers. 

We have 3 rooms in our childcare centre. The Nursery room has children between the ages of 6 weeks and 2 years, the Toddlers room has children between the ages of 2 and 3 years and the Kindy looks after children between 3 and 5 (until the child is ready for school).
 
As soon as the children turn 2 they are in the Toddlers room and as soon as they turn 3 they are in the Kindy room.



 What goes on behind the scenes of a childcare centre?

Child Care Centres are required to plan and follow a curriculum just like school teachers.

The program for Child Care Centres is guided by "Belonging, Being and Becoming Early Years Learning Framework" (EYLF). 

“From the beginning of 2010 EYLF became the official early childhood curriculum framework for South Australia. The EYLF describes the principles, practices and outcomes essential to support and enhance young children's learning from birth to five years of age, as well as their transition to school.” (http://www.earlyyears.sa.edu.au/pages/EYLF/eylf_home/?reFlag=1) 

Our centre opens at 7.45 am and closes at 6pm from Monday to Friday. We offer all day sessions, morning sessions from 7.45am until 1pm and afternoon sessions from 1pm until 6pm. I would estimate that 30% of toddler children come half days and 70% of children come for a full day.

How do child care centres impact on children's lives?

The first 5 years of a child’s life are the most crucial. Instead of me trying to explain it; here is a great website I found that says it all http://www.factsforlifeglobal.org/03/


What qualifications do you need to be a childcare worker and how did you become one?

Once I completed year 12 in 2007 I chose to have a year off and work. I then moved to Adelaide in 2009 where I enrolled in my Diploma of Children Services at TAFESA. It's a 2 year course. I struggled to get along with one of my facilitators, who made my studies near impossible to complete.  I also experienced a very appalling practical experience at a centre I went to. I decided to pull through the course to walk away with at least my Certificate III in Children Services. 

While studying, I learnt about different child theorists, about milestones and the different stages of development, social and emotional, cognitive, physical and creative skills that children learn. I learnt everything I needed to know about my job as I have explained above.    

I needed a job pronto therefore I started job searching. I found a relief child care worker position which I applied for and worked at for 3 months in Adelaide. I was on call 24/7 not knowing where, when or even if I would get work. But I LOVED it. I ended up working at 1 centre as they asked to have me when they phoned my boss for a worker. I would work between 24 to 75 hours a week including Saturday and Sundays. 

In 2010, my partner and I moved to Mildura where I re-enrolled in my Diploma in Children Services internally and completed it over a 12 month period. I was a full time student and I juggled 3 jobs. I was the PIC (Person in Charge) at an OSHC (Out of School Hours Care service), I was also casually employed at 2 different child care centres. 

Once I completed my Diploma in Children Services in 2011, I was offered a job straight away as a Team Leader in the nursery 1 room (6 weeks til 18 months of age) at one of the centres I was employed causally at. I worked there for nearly 12 months before I moved back to South Australia. I started my new job at the end of 2011 and I'm still there now.


Tegan on the far right graduating from the Diploma in Children Services at TAFE SA



What are the challenges that you face in a child care centre?

As Team Leader I am responsible to 'speak with' parents about any concerns that arise about their child's development if any, whether it be their language, behavior or speech. This is why it is so important to form, build and emerge relationships with each and every family member whom passes through the service.
 

Did you know that you always wanted to work with children?

The centre I currently work at now is a community based service. I thoroughly enjoy my job because it is my passion. Ever since I was about 12 years of age I said I wanted to work with children. I completed a VOC studies in year 12 in a child care centre. I volunteered my time at a child care centre, waiting to turn 18 so I could try and get a position there. 

The most rewarding thing about my job is that each day is different. It's not just the same old day in, day out. I also love the affection you get from the children, the bonds you make with them and to see that they turn to you when they are hurt, sad, shy, scared and when they learn to say your name for the first time is VERY REWARDING:) 

Hopefully you can see from this post that being a child care educator is so much more then just "babysitting" children. Qualified educators study for at least two years to learn about children's development and how to assist with and identify children with additional needs, we are kids shoulders to cry on, there to teach them routine, eating healthily, social skills and so much more!

I believe the misconception about childcare educators is that people believe that we just play all day long but they do not realise the great depth and detail that educators must follow to assist in the children's development and what we actually do behind the scenes and throughout the day.

I love my job.

Could you do it?

Tegan x

Today: a poem for people suffering from Depression

Today I'm not going to think about tomorrow,
I'm just going to take each hour as it comes.
I'm going to place one foot in front of the other,
And acknowledge that today I probably won't run.

Today I'm going to start by hauling myself out of bed.
As I lift my body from the soft mattress,
I'm going to praise myself instead.

Today I'm going to enjoy the warmth of the water in the shower.
When I stand on my two feet,
I'll feel a sense of achievement, control and power.

Today I'm going to brush my hair and dress myself in nice clothes.
I'm going to kiss goodbye to my PJs and replace them with panty hoes.

Today I'll choose a shirt that I love to wear,
Because it'll make me feel comfortable in my own skin.
And when I'm feeling comfortable,
Then I know that a light shines from within.

Today I'll leave my room and I'll force myself to smile.
I'll potter around the house doing chores,
And I'll acknowledge that it's all worthwhile.

Today I'll go for a walk and I'll call a friend for a chat.
I'll keep myself busy,
Because I know that I love that.

Today l'll take my time as I move from one hour into another.
And I'll make sure that I go easy on myself,
Because I know that it does matter.

Today I'll eat three meals; breakfast lunch and tea.
Even if it's only two minute noodles,
Then that will do for me.

Today I'll accept that I'm not well,
And that, that's okay.
Today I'll acknowledge to myself that I'll return to full health by focusing on just one day.

Today I'm not going to think about tomorrow or the past.
Today I'm going to acknowledge that I'm one step closer to feeling like myself,
And that these horrible feelings won't last.

Look after yourself and those around you,

Kirsty xxxx



Wednesday, 8 August 2012

Come fly with me to AUSTRIA!


Just beautiful scenery.

Today we're off to Austria, the very first country that I visited outside of Australia.

I didn't go yodeling in the Austrian Alps Sound of Music Style (although I totally would've if we went to the Alps) BUT I did full in love with the beautiful country that it is.

First things first it was my first proper winter. I'm talking thermal underwear cold. Yup, i gave up an Aussie summer to head to Europe in freezing cold winter. Needless to say, it didn't take me long to invest in some warmer clothes. The funny thing is that you'd rug up to your eyeballs with thermals followed by ten layers of clothing, a jacket, scarf, beanie and gloves but as soon as you stepped foot inside you'd be stripping everything off at again! But it was a fun cold. By that I mean that it didn't rain, it was just f-f-f-reeeeeezing! I guess, for me, it was a bit of a novelty.

Nawww Kim and me skiing in Austria!

Did I mention that it was right near Christmas? My oh my Austria was like a Christmas party on steroids. Cute little towns would have stalls set up selling freshly roasted nuts and gluwein (hot alcoholic punch), with carols playing, handmade goodies on sale with merry go rounds for the kids (and big kids if you are me!) and all things festive. It rocked my socks and was much different to our Christmas lead up in thongs and bathers at the beach in Australia!

The Christmas markets make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside even now. Each stall was in a wooden barn hut thing. I could imagine families (I mean, father christmas) going around and buying hand crafted goodies for their friends and family. They sold everything from hand made wooden soldiers to crystal baubles to home made jewellery, candles and so much more!

The beautiful Christmas markets!

Who can forget to mention the food! My oh my Austrians sure know how to make a pork snitty and the potato salad was to die for. Not to forget the apple strudels and pork roasts and cheese fondue...my mouth waters just thinking about it. Every bite was to die for and filled your belly to the brim that you almost needed an afternoon siesta to process it!
Now that's what I call a snitty!

Did I mention the deliciousness of their alcoholic beverages? Austrians don't mess around. They have cellars full of tablets aka two litre bottles of schnapps...all sorts of schnapps. Peach, liquorice, strawberry and more! Oh and the beer. I hate beer in Australia because it's so bitter but over there it was sooo delicious and cheap. I particularly loved Stiegl. And the beer comes in 500ml bottles! A 6 pack cost around AUS $15 for 3 litres of beer!

Mmmm...beer!

Ohhh oh oh and there's the snow. That white powdery stuff that we don't get much of at all in Australia. Yes, we made snow angels and yes we made a snowman but we cheated because we found a big ball of snow for its head (okay so our snowman is kind of pathetic but hey, he was made with love!)
We also went skiing. Luckily for me I had been before so I quickly caught the hang of it. Unfortunately Kim hadn't skied before and spent 80% of her day hooning down the slopes, totally out of control, screaming at the top of her lungs. My favourite photo is when Sissie and I stopped half way down the the mountain, posed and when we looked at the photo there was a tiny Kim in the background coming down the slope with one leg in the air, arms flapping trying to gain control! Gold.

Kim spent most of our skiing trip looking something like this except this almost looks elegant!
We were so lucky that we knew a family who lived in Mödling just outside of Vienna. They welcomed us into their home and treated us like family. I will never forget the toilet water swirling in the other direction, the heated floors, that Austrians eat a huge lunch aka a roast and have a light tea like a sandwich, that it gets dark at 430pm in winter, that it gets so cold that your snot freezes, how gorgeous the castles were, the old buildings and the true beauty of Austria. It was like taking a step back in time.

We spent a whole day looking through a castle which was a small train ride from the CBD in Vienna. It was such an amazing experience seeing how the royals lived considering we don't have castles in Australia. The gardens alone were bigger then most botanic gardens!

The amazingly huge and old church down the main street in Vienna.
I'll let the photos tell the rest of the story...


Enjoying some "snow men" after a hard day of skiing (basically a hot alcoholic shot with whipped cream on top!)

Snow angels!

Giggle - we may have cheated with our snowmans head!

Our very special snowman!

Did I mention cheese fondue?



OMG it's all backwards!



The love heart tree!

Hot alcoholic punch was served in cups THIS BIG (just kidding, a little smaller haha) over the christmas season!



YUM! I'm starting to realise why I put on 5kgs in 6 weeks in Europe haha



MY TIPS:
  • I think 2-3 days tops is enough to spend in Vienna. This would give you enough time to walk through the city, go into the HUGE amazing church, consume copious amounts of pork snitties and beer and to visit the castle just outside of the city.
  • If you go in Winter, PACK THERMALS, a beanie, a scarf and gloves!
  • Take the time to just wander the cobbled stone streets and to sit in a cafe and enjoy every mouthful of your strudel or pork snitty!
  • Take a day trip (or longer) outside of the city. Modling isn't that far out of Vienna and is so cute!
  • If you go near Christmas, take your time to look around the Christmas markets. They are truly amazing!
  • Leave room in your suitcase to bring back goodies! Leave your home with a suitcase 1/2 full so that you have the other half to buy buy buy!
Have you been to Austria? What did you love about it? Do you have any tips to share? Or things to go and see and do?
Look after yourself and those around you,
Kirsty xxx

Tuesday, 7 August 2012

Are you proud of yourself?

The thing I am most proud of is my loving relationship with my hunk a spunk and the fact that we're GETTING MARRIED!


Today I give you PERMISSION to BRAG!

That's right! I want you to talk POSITIVELY about yourself! I want you to TALK YOURSELF UP!

Yes, that's right... I want you to think about everything that you have achieved, no matter how small or big it might be. I want you to STOP being SO HARSH ON YOURSELF. I want you to let yourself say "god I'm good!"

***Insert the tune, I'm going to give myself permission to shinnnnnnnnnnnne HERE!***

I want you to think about that goal that you had in your mind that you have ACHIEVED.

Whether that's going for a walk everyday, or making some time for yourself in your busy schedule, or picking up a book that you've always wanted to read and reading it, or picking up a paint brush and painting, or applying for a new job, or SCORING a new job, or getting engaged, or STARTING A BLOG, or becoming a mum or whatever it is that you are proud of!

I want you to think about some things.

Are you proud of yourself?

Did you just cringe when you read the title of this blog or did you light up and want to start joyfully telling the world about everything that you have achieved in your life?

If you cringed, why?

What aren't you proud of? 

What's holding you back from being the best possible person that you can be?

LET IT GO!!! It's not worth the internal struggle and PRESSURE that you are placing on yourself. 

Do you dwell on things that have happened in the past that you can't change or do you admit, deal with and move on from the things that are no longer in your control?

We're FAR TOO harsh on ourselves ALL OF THE TIME. 

Today I want you to save your praise for yourself!

YES I am proud of the fact that a year ago I struggled to get out of bed and to shower in the morning because I was suffering from Depression. I have fought so hard to overcome it and NOW, now I am renovating, engaged and I have started my BLOG that brings me so much joy and I am stronger, happier and more grateful then ever!

What have you done that you are proud of? I'd love for you to share it here with me!

Remember, today is the day that you have been given PERMISSION TO BRAG! Don't HOLD back!

You are amazing!

Look after yourself and those around you,

Kirsty xxxx

Monday, 6 August 2012

Remembering Kate: happy 28th

I wonder how many boyfriends Kate had after this?



Your birthday is a day to celebrate just that. The day that you decided that you'd had your fun moving and grooving inside of your mum and you wanted to come into this big exciting world. Your day of birth.

So when someone passes away, should we still celebrate their birthday?

I think yes.

A big FAT HUGE YES!

Why?

Because they were born into this world. They lived, they breathed, they laughed, they conquered, they fought, they survived and they have left memories, fun memories, with the people in their lives.

I love this photo! Kate looks so happy (I also LOVE her taste because I had that blue shirt!)

It is a day to stop and remember them and to giggle about all of the fun memories that you shared together. It's a day to remember their annoying habits, their laugh, the mischief that you got up to, their hobbies and just THEM!

Today is a very special day because Kate would've turned 28 today, had she still been with us.

Whose Kate I hear you say?

Kate is a very special lady who will always be 18. She was born to the most LOVING parents that anyone could EVER wish for.

I never met Kate, but I feel as though I know her. I have gotten to know her through the memories that are in the hearts of her loved ones, mainly Kylie, one of my best friends (Kylie wrote this blog about learning how to cope when you lose someone who you love)

I know that Kate was an older sister. Being the oldest sibling myself, I know the pain she would've gone through having a younger sister who would bug the crap out of you and always get you into trouble!
Kate's 18th birthday! Woo hoo what a HUGE milestone!

I know that Kate LOVED cats. She had pictures of them all over her walls.

I know that Kate hated people fussing over her, including her hair and make up. 

I know that she would've whinged and tried to play down her year 12 graduation when her younger sister was desperately pleading with her to do her hair and make up for her.

I know that she gave in because secretly she would've wanted to feel like a princess for a night...and she did! She looked g-l-a-m-o-r-o-u-s.
Kate looking GORGEOUS at her Year 12 graduation!

Today, on the day that her family release helium balloons into the sky, I celebrate Kate's day of birth.

Kate has taught me SO much. I now know more about her illness, I now know that life is so incredibly precious and I now know why her family are such gems...because Kate was apart of it and who they are.

So today, while I celebrate Kate's day of birth, I want you to think about the people who were in your life who are no longer here and smile.

Smile because they would want you to, so that others would wonder what mischief you were up to!

Happy birthday Kate.

Look after yourself and those around you,

Kirsty xxxx

Sunday, 5 August 2012

Depression through the eyes of my mum.

Today I welcome my mum to my blog. I giggle as I write this line because my Mum's blogging experience includes me bailing her on the phone and pleading with her to share her story with all things Depression, asking her questions, mum jotting down her thoughts on a PIECE OF PAPER with a PEN and then SENDING it in the SNAIL MAIL to me in Adelaide so that I could type it! She's just soooo cute! My mum is everything you could possibly want in a mum. She's my friend, she's my shoulder to cry on, she's a little miss giggle pot who always makes me laugh, she's my number one supporter along with Dad and Mick, she's strong, she's suffered from Depression and she was there to support me when I hit rock bottom and she doesn't love me any less because of it.

Today I share Mum's story with Depression as a sufferer and a carer for me when I was going through the toughest battle that I've faced to date.



What was the hardest thing for you and Dad when I suffered from Depression?

Getting that phone call from Mick (my partner) to say that Kirsty was in Intensive Care and being 7 hours away from Adelaide. It was the longest 7 hours of our lives not knowing what to expect when we got to the Royal Adelaide Hospital. We arrived at midnight. Seeing Kirsty in Intensive Care all hooked up to all sorts of instruments was the worst thing a parent should see.

So DISTANCE was a major factor. Living away from Kirsty was extremely difficult when she was unwell.

Not knowing or realising on how bad she was with her Depression was also difficult. Kirsty was missing months off of work. She was ringing us up and saying that she wanted to come home and we didn't know what was going to be the best way to help her and that was very frustrating.

Seeing the person you love lose all of the things that are her. She's usually out there, and would drop everything for anyone, is loud, loving and loves life to the total opposite was very scary.

Kirsty being put through one hospital after another was also frustrating and hard. She was seeing different doctors and being placed on different medications. We were trying desperately to get answers and meeting a lot of brick walls. No one seemed to want to talk to us (a confidentiality  thing as Kirsty was an adult and seeking answers from specialists who didn't help at all left us more frustrated then ever.)

Finding that happy medium with doctors and mental health specialists was challenging particularly when sorting out medication, talking about things and getting to the bottom of what may have caused it. You have to get on well with these people to get progress and luckily Kirsty did with her uni contacts.

We only had limited time to spend with Kirsty as well. When it comes to things like this take as much time as you need. I feel now that I should have taken a lot more time off of my work to get through things and to be there more for Mick...if only in hindsight.

What tips can you give to other people supporting someone with Depression?

Being a person who has suffered from Depression myself, talking about it helps. There was this great stigma about Depression and taking medication when I suffered it over 10 years ago. I often had people say to me "have you taken your happy pills today?" This doesn't help.

People who have never suffered from Depression have no idea on what people go through.

Thank god times have changed for the better and there is a lot more information so that Depression and mental health issues are coming out of the closet.

Being a good listener and being there for people plays a HUGE part in recovery. I had no idea what was wrong with me. I got the kids off to school. I would sit around in my pjs all day. I would think the worst of every situation. I even thought of suicide but my kids kept me from going that far.

I went and talked to my neighbour about my symptoms and she told me that she thought that I had Depression so off to the doctor I went. With a great doctor and the right medication I got back on top of it.

I also rang Beyond Blue and chatted to the loveliest lady. It helped me a lot just to know that a phone call can make you feel so much better.

Trevor and I also got onto Carers SA and they have been fantastic. They have sent out lots of information to read and organised counselling sessions for the both of us. Counselling is great. Do it sooner rather than later.

Carers SA and counselling services are only a phone call away and they help anyone who is caring for a sick person. They offer retreats and things just to have some fun and time out and to recharge the batteries and to be able to share your caring roles with others.

What support was there for you as a family?

Again, it was a real learning curb for us all, our families included on how to deal with all this trauma and not having a real background on mental health was a struggle. There are lots of help lines available for anyone who needs to talk to someone about their situation.

Getting on to a good doctor and having supportive staff around you is also important.

Friends and family with good listening ears and lots of hugs when wiping away many of our tears was invaluable.

Carers SA were so helpful and got us onto the counselling service.

TALK. Don't be afraid to open up. It helps.

So if you have someone that has changed, MAKE TIME to spend with them and to talk to them about how they are feeling.

Put them on to phone numbers and websites that can help them to understand why they are feeling this way.

If you can, go to appointments with them.

Don't hold anything back. It's amazing how much better you feel when you can get it off of your chest.

How do you pick the early warning signs?

Depression goes in different stages. Recognising the early warning signs are a start. My moods changed for the worst. I became withdrawn and didn't want to go out and mix with people. I lost my appetite and couldn't sleep. Basically, I lost interest in life.

KEEP AN EYE OUT FOR CHANGES IN A PERSONS BEHAVIOUR.

Do you have to be on medication forever?

I got the most fantastic doctor who was so helpful and put me onto medication. We kept in regular contact. I was on my first lot of medication for 12 months. I then weaned myself off with the help of my doctor. I went 12 months without medication when I started feeling low again. I was back on the medication for 12 months. I have now been off of Depression medication for 9 years.

Getting the right medication is the key. I stayed on my first brand and I didn't need to change it. Talk to your doctor if your medication isn't working (but be mindful that they do take up to 4-6 weeks to kick in). There is a HUGE variety of medication out there and one will suit you!

What shouldn't you do when you have Depression?

Don't hide how you are feeling. BE HONEST. There's nothing to be ashamed of.

Most of my friends never knew that there was anything wrong with me.

Kirsty was the same (at first). She hid it very well, too well as her friends and family had no idea how bad she was feeling. That's when she took the next step and that's NOT what you want people to do.

We are so very blessed to still have her with us now to share her experiences and ours. SO DON'T KEEP SECRETS. If someone tells you that they have attempted suicide then you need to tell the people around them STRAIGHT AWAY. Suicide is serious. That way, the people can get the person the help that they need.

Did you know that I was going to be okay?

Trevor and I both took time off of work to be with Mick and Kirsty. We stayed a fortnight going in and out of hospitals with her. Being in the city, we didn't know anyone and you don't know who to talk to. We felt like we were getting nowhere at times. She saw so many doctors that are heads were often in a twirl.

It all worked out when we got hold of a good doctor who prescribed Kirsty a medication that suited her.

Then slowly, things started to improve.

Having Mick there as Kirsty's partner was a god send. As her parents, we didn't have a lot of rights. Mick was able to get more sense from the doctors.

We were worried about Mick too as tackling something like this was HUGE for him as well.

Thanks to friends and family he got through it all. His hugs and comforting words telling us all of the time that it would be okay helped SO MUCH.

We love him and we are so grateful to have him in our family as he was Kirsty's rock.

We knew that once she got the right medication that things would improve and it did.

Have any positives come from me suffering from Depression?

There has definitely been a greater understanding of mental health for us all. You can not learn enough about it and after experiencing it you are an open book for anyone that needs or wants to listen.

It has definitely bought us all closer together with our friends and family. We keep in touch much more.

Kirsty and Mick have got the most supportive friends around them too which was a great help for us as well. We were so grateful when we heard from their friends while Kirsty was sick. They would text and ring us to see how we were doing.

Life is precious.

Hang on to it with both hands and tell your family and friends as much as you can that you love and support them as much as possible.

We never do that enough.

Hugs help A LOT too and giving and receiving them is pretty cool.

I hope this has helped someone dealing with Depression or supporting someone who is suffering from this illness.

Love to all,

Sharon ( Kirsty's mum).



Mum and me sharing a wine!







Wednesday, 1 August 2012

Come fly with me!

Swimming in waterfalls in Cambodia!



I love travelling. 

It rocks my socks.

The opportunity to escape the crazy every day Monday to Friday routine, to switch off my phone and become uncontactable, to truly avoid any kind of domestic duties, as well as drinking copious amounts of cocktails and all things alcoholic, stuffing my face silly with the local delicacies and just generally relaxing and unwinding.

Bliss.

Sipping cocktails in Thailand.

There's also the excitement that comes with exploring a new country. Feeling like you are the first to discover this cute little cove to snorkel in, or the first to trudge that giant mountain and to see the monkeys swinging from the trees, or the first to see the true beauty in a beautiful place.

AMAZING!

The people you meet along your journey definitely help to shape your experience. From the gorgeous and generous Thai people, to the sometimes pompous Italians, to the la de da French! By far, all Asian countries that I have explored have been the most hospitable and friendly people. They're just so cute that I want to stow them away into my suitcase...or maybe that's because they are goddesses with their hands and all things massage.

Cute Cambodian kids!
PURE DELIGHT!

Travelling also opens up the opportunity to meet and share a drink or 10 with people from all around the world. Mick and I met the BIGGEST legends from the Lake District in England while taking advantage of the 2 dollar cocktail happy hour on Phi Phi Islands in Thailand. This lead to a crazy New Years Eve watching lady boys dance, experiencing power black outs, filling our tables with the one hour of free drinks and listening to a little Thai guy singing Ladddddddy in reeddddddddd on the main stage.

GOLD!

Pushing the Pisa upright in Italy.

Travelling also opens your eyes up to another culture and way of life. Vietnam and Cambodia definitely made me appreciate the happiness that the simple things in life bring, like your family, friends, home and health. When you saw people living in homes made out of palm leaves, corrugated iron, cardboard and anything they could lay their hands on, I definitely appreciated the creature comforts of our home when we returned to Australia.

MAN I LOVE TRAVELLING!

It's just soooooo much fun!

Dancing in France.

Come fly with me every Thursday when I take you to a new destination to explore. I will discuss the places I've been, the things I've loved and the tips that I have learned along the way.

Have you travelled? What's been your favourite place so far? Do you have any tips for other travellers?


Skiing in Austria.

Look after yourself and those around you,

Kirsty x