Unspoken Conversations are the topics that are often swept under the carpet, whispered amongst the closest of friends and bitched about by many. I want to create awareness about difficult things that people face in life; grief, mental health, money, illnesses, family troubles, relationship difficulties and putting yourself first. I want to tell the truth about things that really matter.

Monday, 29 October 2012

Going the Distance


My partner and I lived 700kms apart for 4 years; that's a 7 hour roaddddd trip, $200 plane flight, ginormous phone bills and a lot of tears apart.

Yes, I resorted to cuddling my pillow for comfort at night during that time.

People go the distance for all different reasons. Some are married to military men and women who bravely fight for their countries overseas, some partners work away at the mines, and some people like me, grow up in the country and need to ship on out to the big smoke for university, leaving their partner behind.

The pros and cons of going the distance:


  • The sex is amazing when you see each other, I mean, you really learn to appreciate each other.
  • You learn to build a relationship on communication ( make sure you have a great phone plan!)
  • For us, I got to live the whole uni student i-cant-afford-rent-but-i-can-afford-alcohol lifestyle in Adelaide shaking my booty at the clubs while mick got to enjoy the bachelor life where gasp, I-don't-even-want-to-know-what-he-got-up-to lifestyle with the boys
  • You may be doing it to support your partners dreams and they will be forever grateful for that
  • You get more time with your friends
  • It may mean that you can be a stay at home mum (which let's face it, is pretty much a luxury these days) because your partner has chosen to move away to make some serious moolah
  • Couples things are tricky because on one hand you don't want to miss out but at the same time they make you slightly green with envy
  • You miss them like crazy and it only gets harder the more time that you spend apart
  • The risk of drifting apart because you are living such different lives
  • Massive phone bills
  • Becoming a born again virgin (depending on how often you see each other of course)

Going the distance sucks balls, but I wouldn't change the 4 years that my partner ans i spent apart for anything; it's helped to shape the strong relationship that we have today.

We definitely don't take the little things for granted like getting to have a sleep over with your best friend every night or cuddling on the couch.

Have you ever gone the distance?

What do you love/hate about it?

Look after yourself and those around you,

Kirsty xxxx

1 comment:

Jess Frost said...

I couldn't do it and totally respect anyone that could! My husband has been working nights for 5 months and we can hardly stand much more of it...thank goodness his shift changes in a few days!!