Unspoken Conversations are the topics that are often swept under the carpet, whispered amongst the closest of friends and bitched about by many. I want to create awareness about difficult things that people face in life; grief, mental health, money, illnesses, family troubles, relationship difficulties and putting yourself first. I want to tell the truth about things that really matter.

Thursday, 6 September 2012

If you really knew me...

My blog shows the more "serious side of me"
But I do LOVE to laugh!

And I am a MASSIVE kid at heart!

This is another popular topic of conversation in the blog world at the moment... if you really knew me...

Why do I want to write about this today?

Because I want to reiterate that you can't always judge a book by it's cover. That many of us hold our most important cards closest to our chests. That people AREN'T ALWAYS happy and people DON'T ALWAYS have the perfect life.

Andddd...that most of the time you will find that the expectations set my society aren't met by ANYONE. They are UNREALISTIC.

So my challenge for you today is to write down 5 things that people might not know about you. 

I want you to think about WHY people don't know these things about you?

What's making you keep these things close to your chest? 

Do you secretly want people to know these things about you but you're just afraid that they will judge you?

I want you to feel comfortable in your own skin and to be able to BE YOURSELF. Not what you think people want you to be.

I want you to be about to BE YOURSELF around everyone, and not just certain crowds.

I'll break the ice and take one for the team...

If you really knew me then you'd know that I HATE BITCHING. I hate it with a PASSION. If you dislike the person, then don't let them enter into your life through your conversations. Choose to ignore them and let other people make their own decisions about the person/thing that is bothering you. If it is someone that you know, GROW UP and tell the person to their face if something is bothering you about them. That way they have a chance to change it.

If you really knew me then you'd know that I'm not a girly girl. I am getting better over time. I was a bit of a tom boy growing up riding my bike, always having grazed knees, building cubby houses and getting muddy. I was never caught dead in a dress or skirt. Since moving to Adelaide I have started to wear make up (but only the bare minimum) and I now where skirts and dresses over tights because JEANS aren't comfy haha.

If you really knew me then you'd know that I feel most loved when people give me their time. I don't need expensive gifts, dinners and clothes to make me happy. I just really really appreciate hanging out with my loved ones, either chatting on the phone with a glass of wine in hand or chatting via instant messenger but most definitely the best time is spent in person. It's nice to know that they can make time for you in this busy thing called life.

If you really knew me then you'd know that I'm not bright and bubbly all of the time. I am LOUD and I do giggle a lot but I also need my alone time. I particularly love taking a bath with lots of bubbles and I savor my time on the bus to and from work where I don't have to think...I can just write a blog post or read my book.

If you really knew me then you'd know that I LOVE GREEN TEA. I drink it by the bucket load. It makes me feel relaxed and is a great detox er!

If you really knew me then you'd know that I may appear really confident, and I am improving with age, but in the past I have struggled with self confidence issues. I'm learning to deal with this by trusting my guts, speaking my mind when I think it's necessary and not biting my tongue ALL of the time anddddd trying not to sweat the small things.

If you really knew me that you'd know that I haven't always gotten along with my sister and my immediate family hasn't always been super close, but we're closer now then ever and I'M SOOOOO GRATEFUL for that.

So now it's your turn...

If you really knew me then you'd know...

Don't hold back!

It's just nice getting some of the things that are whirling around in your head down on paper and to think about why people don't know these things about you, or why some people do and others don't.

It's also helpful to take a step back and think about WHO RESPECTS and APPRECIATES these qualities in you and those who don't.

It might make you re-think your relationships and learn to surround yourself with those who truly love you, moods, green tea drinking habits and all!

Look after yourself and those around you,

Kirsty xxxx

1 comment:

vintagelib said...

Hey Kirsty, I definitely have to agree with your statement about feeling most loved when people give you their time. Time is so underrated as a gift you can give to another person, I would would much rather a nice long phone call or dinner than a gift any day. It's much cheaper too!